Friends Forever

Yesterday will be counted among those days in my life when I felt very distressing. I was completely fine till yesterday morning, I knew that my friend got transferred to other station, but yesterday afternoon when I went to his room to see him off, I realized that, after today it will be hardly possible for both of us to meet oftenly.

He is into Defence service and transfer is a part of his job. He is one of my closest friend, we have done our schooling and college from same institute. I really feel proud to say that I have friends like him.

I don’t know how to describe those feelings; I felt very lonely and took few deep breaths. We hug each other, and had a big smile on our faces; I knew we both were trying to hide our emotions, which were really painful.

I know we will meet and always be in-touch, and we will be friends forever.
I have written few lines on our friendship.


"Naseeb ko agar ho ga manzoor
To hum fir milen ge zaroor
Bhale is lamhe ne kiya hai hume door
Par hamari dosti hi hai hamara garoor"

Things which leads to self-confidence.

Self-confidence is nothing but a level of positive thinking that helps you to believe in yourself and on your abilities. Self-confidence can helps you in performing your work with full energy.

Now the question is do we all have self-confidence, if yes then why most of us hesitate to carry out new things in life. If your answer is No, then what are the areas where we need improvement to gain our self-confidence?


As we all know that knowledge is power and certainly it helps you to gain confidence. But don't you think apart from knowledge there are many areas which helps a person to gain self-confidence.



Self confidence not only comes from knowledge but also from the status that you have in your society, if you are a well-known and wealthy person you will never hesitate from doing strange things. Self-confidence comes when you have no fear in your mind.

There are many politicians, sports person and Actors who never went to schools, they have very less knowledge about rest of the world, but their confidence level is so high that where ever they go and what ever they do becomes a news for rest of the world.

But how can a normal person gain confidence and perform things with out hesitation, I have few suggestion for them. Have you ever noticed that you feel different when you wear certain cloths? Your confidence level will certainly increase if you have wear your best cloths and accessory. Improve on your communication skills, inspite of having less knowledge on a particular topic you can easily come out of that discussion if you have a good communication. Try to become physically fit. Always talk to yourself, it looks silly but it really helps, always motivate your-self, remember your past experiences where you have performed out-standing, always try to boost you self. Finally this seems easy but most of us forgot to do this, just smile and things seem better somehow.


Self-confidence is a vast topic and even small things can change your prospective, things like blessing from elders, a small pray to God, and a small token of belief can change your mind set. We all know where we lag, talk to your self, try to find out areas where you need improvement. I am sure practicing these ideas will help you in gaining your self-confidence.

Sexual orientation can be a confusing topic!

What are Homosexual, Heterosexual and Bisexual? Most of the time I have seen people getting confused on these topics. These are all related to human feelings and sexual orientation towards each other. Don't you think we need more research to understand human behavior and their feelings? This post will help most of us to understand more about them, their behavior and their feelings.

Let’s start with the basic understanding of these terms
Heterosexual: - having sexual and romantic attraction primarily or exclusively to members of the other sex.
Homosexual: - having sexual and romantic attraction primarily or exclusively to members of one’s own sex.
Bisexual: - having a significant degree of sexual and romantic attraction to both men and women.

As we all know that most of the world’s population is heterosexual, but do you know that around 5% to 10% of world population is homosexual and bisexual. There are very few people who came out openly as homosexual, In most of the cases people don’t want to declare them-self as homosexual as they don’t want to face the discrimination form rest of the world.

Sexual Orientation is the main reason for being called heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual, Sexual Orientation is commonly discussed as a characteristic of the individual, and it always defined in relation terms and involves relationships with other individuals. A person can be identified as heterosexual or homosexual according to its behavior while performing sexual acts and romantic talks.

According to the biological sex of the individuals, while performing sexual acts an individual involvement relative to each other decides weather a person is homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual.

In-spite of having a male or female organs, there are people who like to act in a different way then usual, it is by acting or desiring to act. If a male person have feelings of desire to act while performing sexual acts then he will get more attracted towards males, and this act makes him homosexual. In the same way if a woman have feelings for performing the act she will get attracted towards females.



Now one thing is for sure that these acts are not normal and against human behavior and against biological nature. If we want to see our world growing generation after generation we need people who are heterosexual not homosexual. Although Research and clinical literature demonstrate that same-sex sexual and romantic attractions, feelings, and behaviors are normal and positive variations of human sexuality.

In 1977, world Health organization ICD-9 listed homosexuality as a mental illness; it was removed from the ICD-10, endorsed by the Forty-third World Health Assembly on May 17, 1990.Like the DSM-II, the ICD-10 added ego-dystonic sexual orientation to the list, which refers to people who want to change their gender identities or sexual orientation because of a psychological or behavioral disorder.

So one thing is clear from above statement that homosexuality is a psychological disorder, and if its a disorder then why not we accept it, we need more research and intense thoughts on this issue, we must work on some treatments for these people.

These people are as normal as we are, we can not discriminate them because of their one behavior. In addition to their sexual behavior, their might be other reasons why these people get attracted toward their own kind. Apart from physical affection between partners there are things like sharing same goals and values, mutual support which might be the reason for liking each other.

My motive behind writing this post is to explore more about different sexuality in human beings, to understand why these people have different feeling than us, are they having any disorder and how can we create awareness among us to accept these people as one among us. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I hope you like this post and would like to hear your thoughts on this topic.
(Most of the facts and figures are taken from wikipedia.org)

Your friends are your biggest enemy?

Your friends are your biggest enemy? It might be a very divisive topic and there could be lot of differences between my thoughts and yours, but I don’t want to be diplomatic, I don’t know why this thought came to my mind. There is some thing which made me to think in this way. Life is full of uncertainties; I don’t know what hurts me which made me to think in this direction.

I have many friends and they all are my well-wishers, but some times their behavior made me to think are they my true friends. What is a true friend is there any difference between a friend and a true friend.

Friends are very special in everyone’s life; no one can live without them. You need some one apart from your family to share your thoughts and feelings. But are they reliable, how many of us don’t share our friends personal things to some one else. You might be sharing some personal things with your friend but are you sure that it won’t get publicized. The person might be your true friend but are you also his true friend.

Do you know anyone without friends, or someone, who does not have a true friend?
There life must be running very smoothly, at times they must be feeling very lonely but don’t you think they are much secure and safe. They have their own world; they might be sharing their thoughts with someone from their family.

My suggestion would be don’t choose your friend in a hurry and don’t share your personal things with any one unless it’s your best friend and you can rely on him, or else you can be screwed anytime.

Why you want to look perfect?

Why you want to look perfect? Why every one wants to be fit and fine? Why you always play with your style? Why people fly their own kite? These are some question to which we all know the answer, but hardly any one tells the truth.

Biologically the only reason a men or a women wants to look good is to impress his/her opposite gender. However this may not be true in each and every situation. One more thing which we all must have noticed that most species of animals, the male is the more "beautiful" sex than female, so why is it different for humans? Take an example of Lion or Peacock, they all have something unique which makes them more attractive and which helps them to attract their opposite sex.



Then why it’s not the case with humans. A male human can be much muscular than a female, he can be tall and handsome, but on the other hand females are much pretty and beautiful, there is nothing unique about a male to which a female can not challenge.

There has to be something different in males or females, God can not do injustice with humans. It’s a very serious question to which no one knows the perfect answer. But I have the answers for you.



God has made a unique thing in both of them, but they are not using it properly, there is something unique in male which is not there is females, and something is unique about females which is not there in males.

I know most of people must be thinking in wrong direction but believe me something is surely different. Now let me expose the facts.



After analyzing I came to this point that males are born with big heart where as females are born with sharp mind. However when it comes to attracting each other women usually thinks from heart and men try to use their brain which makes them over smart.

I know most of you must be laughing and some of you must not be agreed to my point but this is the way I think, however if you have any other end to this topic don’t hesitate to share with me.

Cock----Cock----It was Chickenpox - Part-ll

When I wake up on Sunday, I had a seviour headache; I was unable to walk properly as I had an unbearable pain in my legs. I realized that this all happened because of my yesterday’s hectic schedule. But it was Sunday so I was bit relaxed that after taking rest for complete day I will be alright.

Conversely my son had already infected with chicken pox, from past 7 days he was under attack by this disease. He was almost recovered, anyhow I came in to his contact and with out knowing I also got infected.



On Sunday I was totally unaware that my body has started showing the symptoms of this disease, I was in complete pain and had fever. That night was a complete terrible for me, at time I use to shiver because of cold, and at time I feel hot and full of sweat.

Anyhow I spend that night and next morning I get up at 8:00 am, I had little body pain but it was Monday. Without thinking much about my health I started my routine work and at 9:00am I left for my office.

I reached office in half an hour’s time, and started my work. When I was typing I observed a small boil on my figure, this was the first time when I realized that this might be the chickenpox. With in no time I shattered that boil. I was not feeling well, and I took a small power nap. I started dreaming and watch myself with full of boils all over my body, with a shook I wake up and started my work again.

Till evening my body got exaggerated and I can see 3 to 4 more boils on my body. I knew I got infected and now I have to take precautions before it gets spread to my colleagues, I left early that day and reached home. I told my parents and wife about this and shown them the boils on my body. They all started praying that it won’t turn in to a massive.

I was not feeling well, my body had a seviour pain and now these boils also started itching. I was in a terrible condition, but that was the only start.

I took some pain killers and anyhow slept that night. Next morning when I wake up my body had around 50-60 boils. Now it was confirmed that I got chicken pox. My mother told me to not eat oily foods, stay away from other family members. I was in to my room lonely, I call at my office and took few days leave.

My mother bought some Neem leaves and spread all over my bed. I had a seviour itching all over my body but I have been warned not to touch those boils. It was a very painful situation, I was helpless. Any how I spend that night, but next morning was a complete horrendous experience, I had boils all over my body it was countless, I was in terrible pain.

I saw myself in mirror, my face, body every thing was buried under boils, I was looking horrific. I was in terrible itching; I sat on chair and started pulling my hairs. My father told me to calm down, he told me it’s a common thing and happens to every one infected with this disease.

Next few days were terrifying for me; doctors told me not to take spicy and oily food, I was eating all tasteless food. Because of those itching boils I was unable to sleep in nights. Those were the most irritating days of my life.

It took almost 15 days to recover me from that nauseating disease. I lost almost 7kg of my weight, my whole body got marks of chickenpox.

After a month past I still have marks all over my face and body from having chicken pox. Doctors have told me that these scars will take few more months to disappear. I can still feel those terrible days of my life and pray to God not to indulge me in this kind of disease.

Cock----Cock----It was Chickenpox - Part-l

This was the most terrible and painful experiences in my entire life. It came through my son and after him I got infected. It was Monday when I recognize that I got infected with chickenpox. But the story doesn’t begin from here.

Saturday’ 27th March 2010, it was one of the most hectic off days I have ever had. It was hot summer day; I wake up at 7:30am and got ready for an appointment with one of my office friend. At 9:00am I reached at my friends place, I left his place at 10:00am and thought I will reach home in half an hour time. But that was my thinking, destiny has decided some thing else for me. While coming back on the way I meet up with one of my close friend Pramood we have done our schooling and college together, currently he is in Indian Air Force. We both were on our bikes, we crossed each other. He ask me to stop; he was going towards the service station and told me to come along with him, as I can drop him back to his room. I got agreed and we both moved towards service station. After giving his bike for servicing, we thought of visiting another friend’s home, his name is Rakesh and he is in Merchant Navy. We both moved towards his home and in half an hour’s time we reached there, it was 12:00 pm noon and sun was on its full heat. We told him to get ready as we were planning to go for a movie. He went inside and came out after an hour’s time. Till then I was totally exhausted and full of sweat. I told my friends that since morning I am out of my home, so I will go home first and then will join you guys in cinema hall. They both got agreed, I took my bike and move towards my home while they both took an auto and move towards cinema hall.

I reached home at around 2:00 pm, as I was fully tired I took a bath and changed my cloths. Remember this was my second bath on that day. After getting refresh I again move towards cinema hall. My both friends were there enjoying cold coffee in CCD, I joined them and had one cold coffee.

I was totally unaware that the way I am taking the hot and cold stuffs it will affect my body immunity with in no time. Anyways let’s continue with the story. We went for the movie and after 2 hr we came out.

While having a friendly talk Pramood invited us for dinner on the same day in his officer’s mess. We all got agreed and decided to reunite at 7:30pm on his room. We all left for home, it was 5:00 pm in the evening.

I reached home and with in no time I got a call from Umesh. He is again one of my close friends. He told me to get ready for a small tracking, we usually go for tracking on weekends, there is a small hill near our area, Umesh and few of our friends has decided for a small tracking, in 15mins they all reached at my place and told me to come along with them. I went with them, it was a nice evening we all enjoyed the tracking. But my body was fully tired, at 8:00pm we all came down and started walking towards our home. But then I got call from Prommod he was waiting for me to join him on dinner as we had planed earlier. Rakesh and one more friend were already reached at Prammod’s place; they all were waiting for me.

I told Pramood that I am fully tired and may not join for dinner with them, they all got angry and started shouting at me. Pramood told me come along with Umesh and other friends, I asked Umesh but he dined.

I was feeling sad for Prammod that he did all the arrangement for us and because of my stupidity I am not in a position to join him for dinner. After getting continuous calls from Rakesh and Pramood I decided to join them for dinner.

As I came from the tracking I was completely tired and full of sweat, I took a bath again remember this was my 3rd bath on the same day then I went to Prammod’s place and joined them for dinner. It was a wonderful evening with delicious dinner.

But till then my body was completely bushed and because of so much of strain my immunity was completely gone. I came late that night and because of so much of strain with in no time I was in to my dreams.

Next morning when I wake up it was a complete horrendous experience for me …………TO BE CONTINUDE